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You’re Not A What Now?

These days, well-intentioned suggestions of equality often follow in the footsteps of the phrase “I’m not a feminist, but…”, as if feminism is a disease we want to ensure everyone we don’t have before proceeding. As if feminism and being a feminist is something to be embarrassed about. Perhaps to some it is, but that doesn’t stop us from enjoying the privileges feminism has granted us, so you understand why I find it agitating to see you denounce the very movement that lets us speak so candidly.

Look, I get it. The “f-word” carries a whole slew of  baggage and stigma with it so you just don’t want to be associated with that crap. So when you balk at the idea of calling yourself a feminist, I take a step back and try not to get angry because you’ve internalized that negativity through social conditioning so how can I blame you for that?

But while we’re at it, let me debunk a few myths for you which may help you reexamine your stance:

  1. “Feminists are misandrists.” Actually, feminism is not anti-men. We love men! We think they’re great. All we’re doing is asking them to give us the same privileges they have. We’re by no means trying to take their rights away.
  2. You don’t have to be a bra-burning, no-shaving, “unfeminine” girl to be part of the club. In fact, you don’t even have to be a girl. Admission is welcome to one and all.
  3. “Feminism has an evil and bitter agenda.” We really don’t. It’s just the radical notion that women are people too.
  4. “Feminism exaggerates the facts and is no longer valid since women have already achieved equal status.” Have they though? Can you think of nothing that suggests otherwise?
  5. “Feminism is anti-sex.” Trust me honey, it isn’t. We’re all for it so long as it’s always consensual.
  6. “Feminists are lesbians.” Well, they might be and they might not be.
  7. “Feminists only care about womens-issues.” Not true. We want equality for all colors under the rainbow.
  8. “Feminists are pro-abortion.” No, we are pro-choice. Big difference.
  9. “Feminism demands that women venture outside the realm of housewives.” No, actually we have no issues with stay-at-home moms. It’s your choice to do whatever you want. See how it works?
  10. “Feminists have no sense of humor.” Again not true. Check out Ellen Page. She’s hilarious!

I hope this helps you reconsider your position. And if not, then don’t adopt a label like “humanist” because:

“I am distrustful of anyone who says they prefer the label “humanist” to “feminist.” You’ve heard the argument before. It’s an attempt to downplay oppression against women and avoid acknowledging male privilege. “Humanist” is taken. It has a definition. It’s a life philosophy that affirms humans’ ability and responsibility to lead ethical lives of personal fulfillment guided by reason and compassion rather than supernaturalism. Many humanists are feminists and vice versa but “humanist” isn’t just a word you made up, bub.

Co-opting “humanist” is disingenuous and lazy. Not all humans are on a level playing field. There is inequality between men and women (and among women), and the feminist movement seeks to rectify that along with other transgressions. It was called the “feminist” movement for a reason.”

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And here’s an an awesome video primer on Why We Still Need Feminism:

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You’re A What?

"I'm not a feminist. I'm more of a… humanist y'know? Coz I think all humans are the same and there aren't any differences between us so we should all be treated the same. That's just my philosophy"

Hmm.. is it now?

I am immediately distrustful of people like you.

In an attempt to not appear like a crazy "feminazi", some people will adopt the term "humanist" to convey their message that all beings are one and the same to them. But the fact is that this humanism philosophy is pretty stupid and the reasons for why are very simple:

1. Humanist is a made up term that is both lazy and disingenous. 
2. It downplays opression against women.
3. It does not acknolwedge male priviledge. 

Not all humans are on a level playing field. Humanism doesn't take into consideration inequalities and disparities. Black people experience their lives very differently from white people just as women expereince their lives very differently from men, just as LGBT people experience their lives very differently from straight people. There is inequality between races, between gender identities and between men and women. And guess what? The feminist movement seeks to rectify all these issues and more. That's why it was called "the feminist movement". 

"Humanism". Pfft.. don't make me laugh.

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Mr. & Mrs. What Now?

It's the darndest thing. I can casually browse the internet and start off watching prank videos on youtube and then end up reading up on Nietzsche. Today was no exception. I was on blackboard, studying my course notes when out of nowhere, while delving into a little side research, I found out that a whopping 50+% of people believe that women should be legally required to change their last name after marriage.

If you didn't catch that; here it is again: legally required.

I feel outnumbered. There are only a handful of women I personally know who haven't changed their names. Most married women do and while this is so loving, so supportive, so giving, why has it never occurred to anyone that it isn't any less loving, supportive or giving for a husband to take their wives’ names? But you don't see that happening, do you?( Perfect example gender double standards)

I was well into my feminist awakening when I first heard the term “coverture.” To sum it up: coverture is the practice of women — and only women! — taking their spouse’s names and is the continued symbolic representation of a practice that was explicitly designed and used to subjugate, oppress and silence women whose identities were wholly subsumed into that of their husbands. 

Somewhere along the way, as years passed and women's rights progressed, this practice stuck on and somehow… it became kind of romantic. But it's only romantic when she takes his name, and not the other way around. Because if he does, well pssshhh… it's coz the dude's totally whipped! (For those of you in agreement with this statement, please click HERE).

More than I loathe the history and practice of coverture and its many continuing cultural implications, I appreciate the fact that women no longer have to do any one thing with their names. Do I wish more women would keep their names, or more men would change, hyphenate or morph their names? Absolutely. I think it would be really exciting if more families and couples felt empowered to decide for themselves what’s best, to decide what makes their marriage or family real for them, instead of simply doing the easy or traditional thing — especially when that easy, traditional thing is steeped in some pretty seriously misogynist history. 

Anyway, that's all the ranting I'm going to do on this topic. Read PART 1 here. 

Now it's back to statistics for me!


True gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.” 
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.

Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege.

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