Can a person ever really change?
Wendy Williams, host of GSN’s “Love Triangle,” is not so sure. I don’t watch the show, but I read an article on it and anyway… I think for the most part, she’s right—that people change temporarily, but eventually return to their old ways.
Changing or stopping what’s become a habit—whether it’s lying or cheating—requires an unwavering determination. How many of us have that kind of undeterred focus about the good things in our lives, let alone the bad things we’re trying to get rid of. That’s why you can’t love someone for who you think they can be, you have to love them for the way they are, because even though they may try and change for you, the chances of lasting success are slim.
I don’t think people can’t change ever. People can change, but only if they want to and not because you want them to. Solution: find someone who embodies all desirable characteristics. Problem: that’s not very realistic. You need to be able to accept negative characteristics, and decide how much of it you can accept and then be forever accepting of them in the long run. I think the real problem here is deciding on how much of something is a dealbreaker and then deciding whether to love it or leave it. That, in my opinion, is hard to know.
I’m in love with Adele.
“My life is full of drama and I won’t have time to worry about something as petty as what I look like. I don’t like going to the gym. I like eating fine foods and drinking nice wine. Even if I had a really good figure, I don’t think I’d get my tits and ass out for no one. I love seeing Lady Gaga’s boobs and bum. I love seeing Katy Perry’s boobs and bum. Love it. But that’s not what my music is about. I don’t make music for eyes. I make music for ears"