I saw pro-life campaigners sitting at a table at my university campus today.
I’m not completely comfortable with abortion…but then who would be? But this is precisely why I’m riding with the pro-choice wagon – I want the right to choose. I’ve already written a post on why I’m pro-choice and you can read it here.
Instead of condemning those who choose to be pro-life or pro-choice, I would instead love to see us focus all that energy towards loving women.
Loving them enough to ensure that every woman has sex only when they are fully capable of choosing to do so and fully capable of making choices regarding pregnancy. That no woman has sex because she lacks self esteem, because she thinks it is the only way she will be loved, because she was physically and emotionally abused and is acting out, because she is forced in any way.
That no woman does not use birth control because she can’t buy it, because she can’t afford it, because her partner is controlling and will not allow her to use it or refuses to use it himself. That no woman be forced to give birth when it would risk her life or prevent her from having wanted children in the future. That no woman be faced with the fear that raising a child when she is not equipped with the resources or support to do so will destroy her.
That we try our best to ensure that children are not brought unwanted into a life of poverty, neglect and abuse. That we recognize that most forms of birth control are not 100% perfect and that we support further development of safe, reliable, reversible forms of contraception. That we do not fool ourselves into believing that children born when they are desperately not wanted and because contraception fails, are somehow likely to magically grow up healthy, happy and whole and be President someday when they are raised by a parent who tried to prevent their conception because they are aware that they were inadequately equipped to raise them. It could happen but realistically, it probably won’t.
That we recognize that our systems for adoption and foster care are not adequate and if we truly want to ensure that even those women who do not choose abortion and offer their children the hope of a better life through adoption, we must still work to fix those institutions first.